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How do I find out your availability?

Email me on the contact form

What are your rates?

I have a slightly different rate structure for weddings within London (no travel), outside London (distance dependent) and overseas. Please contact me

What does your rate include?

A humanist ceremony takes more time and work than a traditional church or civil ceremony which are just read from a template.

The fee includes:

  • Planning and discussing your personalised wedding ceremony
  • All and any research required following our initial planning call
  • All follow up calls and meetings
  • Drafting and editing your personal script
  • Attendance at rehearsals
  • Assistance decorating/ creating your ceremony area on the day
  • On your wedding day; photographers briefing, script run-through with venue & musicians, finalise altar design and officiate the ceremony itself!
  • Your humanist certificate if you are signing one
  • Your bound copy of the ceremony script.

What is a humanist wedding?

A humanist wedding is a non-religious wedding ceremony that gives you the opportunity to marry where you want, when you want, and how you want.

The true intimacy of a wedding shines through with a humanist ceremony as there is no set script and it is up to the couple to decide what form their nuptials take.

A humanist ceremony allows people to have an unique and meaningful ceremony that is designed by the couple.

But I don’t know if I’m a humanist…

You do not have to be a humanist to have a humanist ceremony; a humanist ceremony is focused on the couple and their relationship and what they value.

Humanists view long term partnerships as strongest when built upon support, equality and honesty.

What are my options to personalise my wedding?

Humanist weddings can follow a typical format, or they can be something completely different! It is all the decision of the couple.

And example structure is on my blog post here; when you book an initial consultation we can discuss your ideas and go through alternative ways for you to make your day meaningful and personal.

There are lots of ways to involve families and friends in the events too – they do not just have to be the spectators!

Is it legal?

A humanist wedding is not illegal – but in England Wales and Northern Ireland, humanist weddings are not recognised in law.

What that means is the couple has to go to a registrars office to take care of the legal document signing in the days before or after their humanist wedding.

In Scotland though, humanist ceremonies are recognised in law… I know… this country is bonkers!

Humanists UK are campaigning for equality; you can read more about the British marriage system here and how it could be changed.

OK – this all sounds awesome. What do I do next?

Book in an initial consultation with me here, or have a hunt around the Humanists UK ‘find a celebrant’ page here to find options of others that may be more local to your venue, or appeal to you more.

I tried to book a consultation but you only have slots available in the mornings and I’m at work then!

I do have evening slots on Tuesday Wednesday and Thursdays at 6pm, but they are normally the first to go.

I do initial consultations on Sunday mornings as well – if you are absolutely struggling to find something that works for you and your partner then email me and I’ll put you on the cancellation list.

Can’t I just call you quickly?

You’ll understand when you book how much time goes into each wedding – from initial consultation through all the drafts to the final perfect script, and how I endeavour to give each and every one of my couples the time and attention they deserve.

Experience has taught me that I write best in the afternoons directly after having spoken to the couple and whilst their love story is fresh in my mind.

My afternoons are always spent writing; the weekends are marrying people and evenings are rehearsals!

Some of my family are really religious though. How can I satisfy everyone and still have the day I want?

Symbolism isn’t just the preserve of religions. Candle lighting during ceremonies occurs across multiple cultures for example to show unity and coming together as one.

There are lots of simple, elegant rituals that have meaning and beauty – they just don’t have to have a deity.

When the Grannies and Grandads (or anyone who’s been going to weddings their entire life!) come up to me at the end of a ceremony and tell me how much they enjoyed it; how they didn’t know what a humanist ceremony was, but it so personal, moving, and really marked the day; that’s when I know I’ve done the couples dreams for their day justice.

 

But this all sounds a bit hippy. I still want it to be a serious event – as much as any church or religious wedding would.

And you can get this feeling completely. You can follow a traditional wedding structure from whichever culture you choose; just when it comes to the section where you promise to “love one another in the eyes of Jesus Christ/ God/ Allah/ Vishnu”, you change this to something more relevant, like “with all that I am, and all that I will be, I vow in front of my family and friends, that I will love and honour you.

My couples find that their vows have much more meaning, emotion and honesty, as they’ve not made their promises in the eyes of someone they don’t believe in.

They’ve just promised from their heart, and with their heart.

A lot of people don’t even notice that I’ve not mentioned a God of any sort in the ceremony. I can still talk about life’s trials – we all face these – and the importance of working at your marriage, focusing on being your best self every day, and remembering the vows you make.

Read more about wedding structures here and how you can personalise them.

I am a hippy! I want something really different and individual for my day.

Read more about alternative rituals on my blog post here, and also browse the culture and tribe sections on my blog.

Hopefully there are some ideas there that will get your creative juices going; then book in a personal consultation with me here, and lets make it happen!